Sometimes clients come to my sessions alone, hoping to work through and resolve a type of relationship issue.  Other times, couples come to see me together.  However, relationships are not just limited to intimate relationships, where I also work with parent-child; siblings; or friendship relationships.

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Regardless, together we explore and introduce skills, strategies and approaches to resolve whichever relationship issue you're having challenges with.

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I am attuned to what happens in my counselling room and hold unbiased neutrality, with the question "What's the most that can be brought, to help shift relational issues and restore connections"?

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My goal is 'your' relationship, and I have faith (and successes) that all issues can be resolved. However, it does take commitment, patience and a willingness from both sides.

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What I regularly observe (and which is normal) are two very different systems that exist within every relationship, that at times causes clashes and impasses.

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These can be due to:

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• Differing value systems

• Lack of agreements

• Difficulty with managing conflict

• Unresolved past hurts in the relationship

• Fear of conflict

• Lacking communication skills

• Childhood experiences and resulting relational patterns

• Challenging emotions (anger, frustration, sadness, hurt, escalated responses etc)

• Trauma

• Sex, love and intimacy differences

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I come with a scrutenising yet compassionate and unbiased eye. As I sit with each relationship and hear their concerns. I also see beyond what they are presenting; observing their relating patterns and dynamics within the session. I directly pinpoint the dynamics I observe and, combined with the issues that are wanting to be focussed on, we go to the core.

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For example, some issues may relate to their partner's, parent's or loved one's:

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• alcohol and other drugs issues

• jealousy

• infidelity

• communication issues

• domestic and family violence

• sex, love and intimacy issues

• their mental health, anger or emotional upsets

• behavioural issues

• financial issues.

 

The types of issues we address and the different types of relationships that show up in my sessions are endless.

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I work creatively, using all my skills and treatment approaches, where I may at times bring you in for respective individual sessions, to work on individual issues that might be getting in the way and/or introduce skills and strategies. I then may bring you both in at other times to check in and see how it's working and do some fine-tuning.  All with the overall aim of restoring love and a flourishing connection, or whatever you goal may be.