Men: Conquering Emotions and Relationships

 

MANY men come to see me for therapy.

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It’s common to feel despair and lost in life circumstances—most often in relationships with partners.

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You see, not all men, but many are stuck in the middle: lost, confused, frustrated. Unsure of how to change things.

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They’re often painted as the villain—or the dreaded “N” word (narcissist).

But what I see is that this only creates more divide in relationships - when we paint​ people as villains or narcissists.

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Don’t get me wrong—there are cases out there that are extremely unsavoury, where significant mental health issues are present and narcissistic behaviours truly fit. But those are at the far end of the spectrum… and those people wouldn’t be looking at this website. ​And let me be clear—women can be put into all these categories too.

 

But let’s be real here. The real problem behind everything is the chasm of misunderstanding that separates you from your loved one.

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I’ll say that again:

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A CHASM OF MISUNDERSTANDING.

This is what fuels frustration and deepens the disconnect.

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The misunderstanding often lies here: women (typically) expect and demand that their male partners simply “step up” to meet them. Or else, they’ll leave.

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Whoa.

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That’s terrifying if you’re on the receiving end. If I put myself in the man’s shoes, I’d probably shut down and give up. I might think: “Well, it wasn’t working anyway, because…” I’d feel helpless, and maybe resentful of the unrealistic expectations placed on me.

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The expectation to change can feel insurmountable. Like, “Where the hell do I even start?” At that point, many men walk away—sometimes with relief—and hope the next relationship will somehow work out better.

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This is where I step in. Where I see the real problem.

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YOU are not bad. Society has shaped us for millennia, reinforcing rigid patterns of how men and women “should” be.

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Women typically reach out for support, talk things through, and process openly.

Men, meanwhile, are often left carrying the blame for not being like this. For many men, it’s like asking a fish to read Shakespeare.

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That’s why I take a very different approach to working with men.

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My style is compassionate and caring, yet also strong, grounded, wise—and with a touch of humour.

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Together, we strategise and process:

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• Understanding emotions

• Learning to regulate (and accept) emotions

• Exploring the experiences that shaped you, because deeper understanding creates real shifts

• Bringing this growth into your relationships
   

And BOOM! Watch your relationships grow and flourish. More importantly, you’ll step into being the man you want to be in the world.